faeribbon submitted:

The concept of monosexism is transmisogynistic and also excludes women of color. As a cis white woman you need to stop and listen for once.

You should publish this for your followers to see as well, since I suppose they support it with you.

I am, in fact, listening. I have been listening since the first time someone claimed the idea of monosexism was anti-black and didn’t include an aspect of privilege, after which I changed my views on it. I am reading all the links people send my way, and I’m trying to understand where all this misunderstanding and anger is coming from, because a lot of the things being mentioned are things I’ve never seen.

I understand you’re angry and it may not seem like I’m making any effort here, but in reality this is an issue the entire bi community is stopping to talk about and work through. We care. There’s been a lot of blatant misinformation and strawmanning spread around that I feel we should absolutely be allowed to correct as well, but a lot of us physically or mentally can’t - especially because of recent events like in the difemina tag - so things are spiralling into anon-hate etc which makes this discussion pretty much impossible for anyone with any set of views to have safely.

I may not understand any of the criticisms being brought up right now, but I am lisening, and I am trying to assess how I feel along with other bi bloggers of colour, bi trans women, and bi jewish people. I’m not going to write about this issue any more until I get a better understanding of where these accusations are coming from, get more energy, and feel a whole lot less fragile. Honestly I can’t deal with the inevitable angry asks and arguments that will come along with any kind of discussion on this irght now (for various reasons), but I will definitely talk about it in future.

TL;DR: Stop messaging me for my views about monosexism. I can’t handle it right now, but I’m sincerely listening, and I’ll come back to it when I have more info and am in the right headspace.


Have a happy dog! Because the people flooding your ask box are disturbing to me and I think you deserve a cute submission for all the shit you have to read.

This is so thoughtful and lovely of you - thanks so much! I feel a lot better. c:

Have a happy dog! Because the people flooding your ask box are disturbing to me and I think you deserve a cute submission for all the shit you have to read.

This is so thoughtful and lovely of you - thanks so much! I feel a lot better. c:

Hey so I came across your blog and noticed you were having trouble citing a seemingly creation-dateless pdf and I thought I’d try to help out.

The professor who published it has been working at Ohio State since 2004, and has been teaching that class since 2005.  It’s stated on his webpage that it’s a very small class, which is probably why nothing shows up for that class when I check ratemyprofessor.  I tried several different (apparently outdated) methods for creating a pop-up window on the webpage that will display the last-modified date, but nothing worked.  I googled the URL and found that the earliest the link to the pdf was posted was in 2005 —

— which is the same year that he started teaching the class.  I’ve tried to find the exact publication date including the month and day, but it’s not really working out to well.

Anyway, at least you’ve got the year!

Hope everything goes well with the rest of your essay~

You are an absolute star - thank you so much! All I need is the year so that’s perfect!

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Hey, look at this book!

It’s the first in a series, and it’s about queer teenage girls who go to a super-cool boarding school and learn how to fight evil monsters with the power of glitter, self-care, and friendship - plus it’s happy, uplifting, and refreshingly free of girl hate. And it was written by a Tumblr person! (Plus, did I mention that it’s interactive and that there’s a romance between two of the female main characters?)

Here’s a link!
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This sounds pretty cool and maybe you should check it out!