ugh feeling crap because i miss being in love and almost everyone i know (irl and online) has a partner and i’m sitting here like “it’s statistically likely i’ll be alone forever”

"cool"

I mentioned that masterpost I was maing the other day, and I’ve not posted it yet because 1. I’m still adding links and 2. I’m probably going to have to add extra categories to make it easier to navigate.

sorry!

Btw if you’ve ever thought “hey that ciara girl is kind of cool i guess” maybe you should send me an ask and I’ll give you my skype??

Anyone I have already, I’ve forgotten some of yr urls so it’d be fab if you could make sure I know who you are! c:

Where do TWEFs get off on being rampant fucking toxic misogynists?

Who do they think gave them the right to sit behind their crumb-filled keyboards and tell OTHER WOMEN that they’re lesser and invalid because they don’t meet their stringent ~real woman~ criteria?

How can they sit there and repeatedly DISREGARD women’s consent, harass them, and spread blatant fucking misinformation about them, and then claim they’re not violent misogynists with blood on their hands?

TWEFs kill women. TWEFs destroy young girls’ lives. TWEFs are a hate group and need to be crushed because they’re complete fucking tools of the heteropatriarchy.

idk i really hate when i upset people and i 100% try my hardest not to come off as arrogant (unless you’re being a massive bigot in which case I’ll gladly come down on you like a ton of bricks because no stop).

i just hope i rarely make people feel that way and that if i do they let me know so I can fix it, because it is never ever what I’m going for ever. i just want to discuss things and learn stuff and make friends, so when i mess up i’m really sorry and i hope people let me know and understand i’m willing to learn and make changes.

i’ll make a conscious effort to be better i’m just confused and worried that i’ve been an asshat all the time and not realised.

Handwriting challenge! (click to zoom if you want idk)
Name: CiaraURL: emielloBlog title: fierce femme bitch (too true)Favourite colour: Probably dark blue, but raspberry red is gorgeous too.Crush: I have a massive crush on Nicki Minaj and a friend crush on garlicbloggerWrite something in caps: SMASH THE PATRIARCHY AND FUCK CAPITALISMFavourite band: That’s a hard one. The Oh Hello’s and Brand New and Johnny Foreigner and Los Campesinos! probably. I can’t pick!Favourite number: 3 because it’s the day of the month I was born on. Also it’s just a nice number.Favourite drink: depends on the time of year and occasion! I love rum and coke, but homemade mochas are great especially in the winter, and smoothies are fucking amazeballs if I’m in the right mood.
I tag panthershah, lettuceiscurrentlyinmyasshole, princess-passion-flower, garlicblogger, celestialqueer, veganasana, and a-little-bi-furious, if youse want to do it!

Handwriting challenge! (click to zoom if you want idk)

Name: Ciara
URL: emiello
Blog title: fierce femme bitch (too true)
Favourite colour: Probably dark blue, but raspberry red is gorgeous too.
Crush: I have a massive crush on Nicki Minaj and a friend crush on garlicblogger
Write something in caps: SMASH THE PATRIARCHY AND FUCK CAPITALISM
Favourite band: That’s a hard one. The Oh Hello’s and Brand New and Johnny Foreigner and Los Campesinos! probably. I can’t pick!
Favourite number: 3 because it’s the day of the month I was born on. Also it’s just a nice number.
Favourite drink: depends on the time of year and occasion! I love rum and coke, but homemade mochas are great especially in the winter, and smoothies are fucking amazeballs if I’m in the right mood.

I tag panthershah, lettuceiscurrentlyinmyasshole, princess-passion-flower, garlicblogger, celestialqueer, veganasana, and a-little-bi-furious, if youse want to do it!

It’s kind of scary how deeply ingrained heteronormativity (especially lesbophobia) is into society, that it convinced me for more than a decade that I wanted to date and sleep with men just because I’m a woman.

Women are expected to want men no matter how we identify, and bisexual women especially are viewed as playthings for men’s desire. I willingly put myself in unwanted situations to try and feel like a ‘good bi’ or a ‘good feminist’, because I never did like men the way I was meant to. I’d internalised all this bi and lesbophobia and it’s been impacting my identity since I was 8 years old, crying in my bedroom and asking god not to let me be a lesbian because I recognised that I liked girls. On the other hand, that’s exactly why the word ‘lesbian’ now seems so comforting. It’s like coming home after being on a really long trip and everything feels okay again. It feels safe.

Bisexual is very much still me - I think I’m just finally accepting that I’m hella gay and I like men infinitely less than I’ve always been expected to. Lesbian sums that up. It means my identity’s a bit more complicated than a single label, but most people are, and fingers crossed the shit I put myself through won’t happen to some other young woman because she thinks she has to fill out a checklist to be valid.

You don’t. You’re perfect.

Sexual orientation isn’t set in stone. It’s constantly changing and flowing. Don’t let yourself be restricted. :)

thank you! You’re really lovely. c:

I guess I’m just confused because I never thought my identity would change. I didn’t think I’d be a bi woman who’s not attracted to men. I didn’t think I’d be someone with differing romantic and sexual orientations. And now I’m part of all these groups I wasn’t in before, practically overnight. It’s just odd and I feel like I’m coming out to myself all over again.

Lesromantic bisexual feels much better right now, so I’ll go with that.

thatvegancosplayer replied to your post “I’m identifying more and more with the word ‘lesbian’ lately because…”

Dude do what you want!

agh but the thing is i’m not a lesbian, and I’ve almost grown up in the bi community considering I’ve identified as bi in some capacity since I was 15. It’s super important to me, and it’s more literal because I do have sexual attraction to people of all genders.

But at the same time lesbian is a comforting word to me (whilst the community is not, unfortunately), and it sums up my romantic orientation a bit better. But I’m still into romance with non-binary people, and I probably could date a man but I just feel like the probability of that happening is incredibly slim, so idk.

Can I be a Bi-Lesbian or something? A lesbian? Does anyone else feel like this?