Yeah, in the wrong or not, I got to give it to SJ Sally this time.
Seriously, people need to take a step back from Laci AND BREATHE.
It’s good to critique!
But then you gotta move on.
Social Justice Sally used to confuse the hell out of me when I first joined tumblr. I didn’t think that “intellectual” individuals could be so utterly misguided. Now I get the shit out of it.
I don’t think using the same slur in her ‘apology’- without censoring it, either -counts as an apology.
She did put quotation marks around it and she did apologize sincerely. Before this debacle I had never ever seen anyone argue that a slur should be censored. The commentor said tranny without censoring it and I see no-one in arms about that. Even so, at the end of the day, Laci was raising awareness and acceptance of LGBTQ issues. I would rather she did not receive death threats from individuals who are meant to be campaigning for supposedly similar causes. There was constructive criticism and after openly admitting and apologizing for her mistake she is still somehow condemned and hated? That seems insane. We’ve got enough ACTUAL enemies without fighting amongst ourselves. Don’t let these “social justice” blogs corrupt you.
The point isn’t the quotation marks, she shouldn’t have said it/written it the first place. (The commentor is also actually part of the trans* community, so that is different.)
That just seems so harsh. I mean, I have and occasionally still make mistakes concerning trans* issues and I would hope that everyone knows that I don’t do it out of hate or even indifference but from a lack of education and forgives me. I can’t explain it but just seeing/reading this debacle is incredibly saddening. It is so unforgiving that it almost makes me lose my faith in people. So I am just going to have to step back from LGBTQ & social activists’ tumblrs for a while.
I don’t think anyone is sitting here and saying, "You know what, Laci Green deserved to have violence threatened against her and to feel scared for her safety because she didn’t censor this slur!" What Lauren (and most people upset about this whole scenario) is saying is that her apology was shit. I’d say if trans* people don’t find her apology adequate, it probably isn’t. Aside from this incident, she’s said quite a bit of prejudiced garbage and stood by it.
In saying that, SHE DID NOT DESERVE DEATH THREATS. Hint: no-one does.
She DOES deserve to be called out [Although she has a history of being patronising to those that do this when they’re actually being very legitimate] and due to being so high-profile she needs to step up and learn from her “mistakes”. She didn’t learn from after being called out for the T-word and that’s problematic because she’s teaching people it’s not that big a deal.
I’d say she’ll be forgiven when she apologises honestly and meaningfully, but until then she’s defending what she did. That’s not okay.
[Also Anita Sarkeesian and other feminist bloggers - as well as PoC and religious minority bloggers to a larger extent again - have been getting threats like this for a long time. No one is as up-in-arms about them though.]