roslynholcomb:

never-obey:

lovershappiness:

princess-passion-flower:

My lesbian co-worker and gay co-worker are really transphobic. They said they wouldnt date someone trans even if post op. Called that “freaky shit.”

I just

Most people choose who they date, get over it.
We don’t say that…

My question is, why on earth would a transwoman not tell a woman upfront that they are trans? I mean, if being trans is all about “redefining realness” and you’re happy and proud of who you are why would you not share that information? Then there’d be no question of who you are or being rejected because you’re not what that person is looking for. I’m a black woman who began dating interracially a long time ago, primarily online. And this was before digital cameras so most folk’s profiles didn’t have pics. I always began my ad with, I’m a black woman, because I was targeting folk who were interested in women like myself, not the ones who were not. Frankly, I rarely give men like that a thought. If I do, it’s with a shrug and “it’s their loss.” Why is it that trans folk insist on dating people who don’t want you? I have to assume this is another validation thing, because damn, it’s not that deep. With 6 billion people (and counting) on this planet you’re bound to find someone who wants you, and if not, maybe you need to examine yourself and stop flinging out these stupid accusations. Maybe it’s not your dick, but that you are a dick.

  1. it’s trans woman, not transwoman, in the same way that you’re a black woman rather than a blackwoman, and I’m a bisexual woman rather than a bisexualwoman. Trans is an adjective.
  2. if someone says they’re interested in woman then that should include trans women, who are, y’know, women. When a trans woman says she’s a woman she isn’t lying or misleading anyone. She is being 100% ‘real’ and authentic to herself and others. Like, let me reiterate: trans women are women.
  3. 1/12 trans women will be murdered, and if they’re a woman of colour that rises to 1/8. Often, being open about being trans is also being open to assault, rape, harassment, and murder. It’s great that you’ve always felt safe disclosing your race to strangers online, but trans women don’t have that luxury. It very often puts them in danger.
  4. Trans women aren’t insisting people date them when they don’t want to. I mean seriously, who would want to date someone who isn’t interested in them, or is bigoted towards them? What’s actually happening is that trans women are insisting people accept that they’re women. They’re insisting that people think about why they claim they’re unattracted to trans people (which is as bigoted as claiming you aren’t attracted to black people. It implies all people within that group are the same). They’re insisting that people fight transmisogyny and cissexism they’ve internalised. They’re insisting people treat them like human beings.
  5. Congratulations, you’re a transmisogynist. Please remove your bigotry and try again.

deonte-s:

justanotherrreblogger:

This is why 4chan raided Tumblr, nobody likes Tumblr feminists, NO ONE.

i can’t believe people eat this shit up like it’s real
people can just type up the wildest fake “SJW” text they can think of and it just travels infinitely around communities desperate enough to get their anti-SJW rocks off that they’ll jump at the chance to attack this fake ass manufactured SJW strawman garbage
you’re thinking “damn i’m the strongest tiger in the zoo, let this be a lesson that i will catch and kill every rabbit that dares to encroach upon my domain” meanwhile everyone else is laughing watching you rip apart a stuffed animal because you can’t tell the difference

deonte-s:

justanotherrreblogger:

This is why 4chan raided Tumblr, nobody likes Tumblr feminists, NO ONE.

i can’t believe people eat this shit up like it’s real

people can just type up the wildest fake “SJW” text they can think of and it just travels infinitely around communities desperate enough to get their anti-SJW rocks off that they’ll jump at the chance to attack this fake ass manufactured SJW strawman garbage

you’re thinking “damn i’m the strongest tiger in the zoo, let this be a lesson that i will catch and kill every rabbit that dares to encroach upon my domain” meanwhile everyone else is laughing watching you rip apart a stuffed animal because you can’t tell the difference

(via a-little-bi-furious)

MY FOOD IS CRUELTY FREE

people who eat crops picked by under payed, overworked, exploited and abused poor migrant workers (via bertoltbrechtfast)

nothing is cruelty free in capitalist society but DID YOU KNOW it takes 16lbs of grain to make 1lb of meat, 251 animals die to produce 1 million calories of chicken, and less than 3 animals die to produce 1 million calories of vegetables. so remind me what crops you and the animals you consume are eating?

here’s the thing: stop using exploited poc and migrant workers as an argumentative tool in the never-ending pissing contest against vegans. you don’t actually care about them, you don’t actually care about animals, and you don’t actually care about what choices cause the least harm. you also don’t understand capitalism and animal agriculture. like at all.

thank.

(via lady-adventurer)

lazulicrime asked:

F, J, S and Z !

F. MY FAVOURITE MOVIE.
Ugh this is so difficult! The movie that’s left the biggest impression on my life would be Imagine Me & You, and I love it to bits, but I also adored Snowpiercer? Those are definitely the first two that come to mind.

J. WHAT I WANT TO BE WHEN I GET OLDER.
An ethologist! I want to study animal behaviour - specifically emotion or consciousness or language or culture like wow non-human animals are just do damn fascinating I want to know everything and make discoveries. c:

S. A RANDOM FACT ABOUT MYSELF.
My go-to random fact is “I’m double-jointed” but that’s boring, so I’ll say that this year I’m going to learn how to sew and dress-make. Hopefully this time next year I’ll be able to alter my own clothes and make some from scratch which would be hecka rad, and it’s something I’ve always wanted to do.

Z. HOW ARE YOU?
I’m so freaking sleepy but I’m pretty good to be honest, thank you!!

maxvocado asked:

IKR

I. HAVE ANY TATTOOS OR PIERCINGS?
I have both earlobes pierced and stretched to 2/4g ? I’m not really sure to be honest, but I know I want to get to 1cm/00g. I have my septum pierced too, and that’s it. I want a lot of tattoos and I know what I’d get, but I’m not sure where I’d put some of them. Plus it’s hecka expensive. Fingers crossed in 5 years or so I’ll have some tattoos. c:

K. RELATIONSHIP WITH MY PARENTS.
I know both of them and get on well with them, though I’d say I have a better relationship with my dad. Mum’s struggled with a bunch of illness for decades (both mental and chronic physical ones) so sometimes that’s strained things between us because I didn’t quite understand her, but it’s a lot better now.

R. FAVOURITE SONG AT THE MOMENT.
Tied between I Have Made Mistakes and Trees, both by The Oh Hello’s. The lyrics are just amazing.

I. HAVE ANY TATTOOS OR PIERCINGS?

Do it.

  • A. WHY MY LAST RELATIONSHIP ENDED.
  • B. FAVORITE BAND.
  • C. WHO I LIKE AND WHY I LIKE THEM.
  • D. HARDEST THING I’VE EVER BEEN THROUGH.
  • E. MY BEST FRIEND.
  • F. MY FAVOURITE MOVIE.
  • G. SEXUAL ORIENTATION.
  • H. DO I SMOKE/DRINK?
  • I. HAVE ANY TATTOOS OR PIERCINGS?
  • J. WHAT I WANT TO BE WHEN I GET OLDER.
  • K. RELATIONSHIP WITH MY PARENTS.
  • L. ONE OF MY INSECURITIES.
  • M. VIRGIN OR NOT?
  • N. FAVOURITE PLACE TO SHOP AT?
  • O. MY EYE COLOUR.
  • P. WHY I HATE SCHOOL.
  • Q. RELATIONSHIP STATUS AS OF RIGHT NOW.
  • R. FAVOURITE SONG AT THE MOMENT.
  • S. A RANDOM FACT ABOUT MYSELF.
  • T. AGE I GET MISTAKEN FOR.
  • U. WHERE I WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW.
  • V. LAST TIME I CRIED.
  • W. CONCERTS I’VE BEEN TO.
  • X. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF (…)?
  • Y. DO YOU WANT TO GO TO COLLEGE.
  • Z. HOW ARE YOU?

never-obey:

lovershappiness:

princess-passion-flower:

My lesbian co-worker and gay co-worker are really transphobic. They said they wouldnt date someone trans even if post op. Called that “freaky shit.”

I just

Most people choose who they date, get over it.
We don’t say that straight people “discriminate” against people of their relative sex, or that gay men “discriminate” against women. There are gross entitled men who would try arguing that lesbians “discriminate” against them, they are asshole pigs.

"Even post op"

Do you expect lesbians and gays to pretend that surgically altered genitals are exactly like the original?

excuse me just explain to me how you have evolved so far above the rest of us that you can look at someone and instantly tell whether they’re cis or trans

please explain oh wise one because you are the first person i have ever met who has this ability. who is attracted only to cis people and never to trans people. who would never fall in love with someone and then find out that maybe they’re trans, and decide that their body is SO FLAWED and NOT ~REAL~ that you have to leave them because it’s not someone’s gender yr attracted to it’s clearly their genitalia. wow.

(((what the actual fuck is wrong with transphobes you’re the grossest most body-shaming cissexist little shits ever.)))

Anonymous asked:

I used to be really into the radfem community. I'd wager most of them are just straight-up transphobic, and the rest drank the Kool Aid (like myself). I still consider myself a gender abolitionist because it's damaging as hell to -everyone- (trans folk included), but I give my undying support, respect, and love to anyone suffering from gender dysphoria.

a-little-bi-furious:

princess-passion-flower:

I just dont see how gender abolition is necessary when we are already trying for gender equality

Really it’s down to radfems equating gender with the terrible socially constructed gender roles society gives to gender, they believe they are the same thing. And on paper it’s like “okay, gender roles need to be abolished, got it, onward to gender equality and liberation”, but then you get to talking about “biological sex” which most radfems really value highly and see as not changeable or socially constructed and the ultimate arbiter of privilege.

That’s where the majority of radfem ideology falls down because as transfeminist Mey put it "sex is just gender wearing a lab coat", and all of the old BS ideology and gender roles just gets transfered from gender onto sex, and consequently everybody outside of the sex binary, particularly trans women, get erased and thrown under the bus.

Plus gender equality does not mean the same thing to radfems as it does to other feminists, they dismiss gender equality as “liberal” and “not a feminist priority” prefering to strive for “liberation from gender”, which to them means throwing away the old capitalist racist gender-based system of oppression and starting afresh, in theory at least.

Basically a lot of confusion comes from radfems using very different language and terms to describe what they are about, which also has the effect of hiding the parts of their ideology that does not really hold up and dismissing criticism of the ideology as “not knowing what gender is”.

bolded because hell yes

Anonymous asked:

Lol the idea of gender abolition is getting rid of the binary so there wouldn't be any need to conform and people could do whatever they waned but there would be no labels. People would just be people and one could present however they chose without being a "man" of "woman"

princess-passion-flower:

But I am proud to be a woman, that would literally destroy my identity. I don’t want to be just a person, I am a proud black woman. My being black or being a woman is not the problem, I am not forcing people to confirm by identifying as such. The oppressors are. So why not the oppressors change, because the identity is not the problem? 

See, miss me with that.

But like…people do this already with gender? People have always presented how they want, enjoyed whatever they enjoy, etc. The only issue with our society now is that transphobia is accepted and even encouraged. People are being put down and attacked and murdered for presenting however they like, no matter what word they associate with that. Getting rid of the words won’t suddenly destroy misogyny and transmisogyny. It’ll just leave us with a generation of trans kids who have no way to describe who they are.

This sounds to me like that “labels aren’t for people” bullshit, but the reality is that labels allow us to understand our world. It’s not like colour, where if you have no word for ‘green’ you simply percieve it as a colour you do have a word for. If you don’t have a word for your gender or sexuality, it leaves you confused and upset and frustrated and alienated. Its harmful and destructive because you can’t figure yourself out.

People need these words. And if you’re cis especially you have no right whatsoever to tell them they’d be better off without them.