The problem, dear, is that you are literally bringing this argument to every vent post from bisexuals who are talking about their maginalisation that doesn’t even talk about you. Even the shitty comment on that post said “gay people” not lesbians, yet you still make it about you or do you suddenly not mind being “lumped in” with gay men when it suits you?
That post literally said non-bisexuals, that includes everyone who is not bisexual, you are not being singled out and guess what fuck-truck? Bisexuals make those vent posts because they are so isolated from the community from the rampant biphobia makes them feel that they can only trust other bisexuals, aka it’s not about you.
And before people come to me with “but what if a gay person did the same thing? you’d be offended right?” to which I say there are dozons of posts like that on tumblr, there are entire blogs where lesbians and gay men say constantly they want nothing to do with people outside their group because of marginalisations they have felt, I hear crickets from you anons when presented with these blogs and posts and when a bisexual does respond badly to them they are repeatedly told off by everybody for and held up as proof of bisexuals not respecting gay-only spaces. My god, nobody sees the double standard here, and of course while one group needs a safe space from bisexuals (whether biphobia-motivated or not), bisexuals cannot even have one single text post saying they feel uncomfortable around everyone except bisexuals because of biphobia without it turning into a massive inter-community drama.
I can’t even say that’s a fucked up thing to happen without anons flooding my inbox telling me they wish I would die and that I’m indifferent to the rape of lesbians, fuck all you gaslighting motherfuckers, you better be fucking survivors or else your tokenisation of corrective rape to score internet points is super fucked up and you should be ashamed of yourselves especially when you accuse bi survivors of doing the same thing. Fuck off.
Also today I learnt that bi men rule the world with straight men, this is evidenced by all of the stats of bi men raping lesbians, all of the positions bi men hold in major organisations and all of the validation bi men recieve fr- OH WAIT NO THEY FUCKING DON’T YOU’RE LUMPING THEM IN WITH STRAIGHT MEN BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT GAY MEN AND GAY MEN DON’T EVEN FACTOR INTO YOUR ANALYSIS GOSH I WONDER WHY? COULD IT BE BIPHOBIA AND A RELUCTANCE TO CALL OUT FUCKERY FROM GAY MALE MEMBERS OF THE COMMUNITY? I GUESS WE’LL NEVER KNOW WILL WE ANON?
straight friend: aw I don’t understand why you’re still single
me: because approximately 8% of the us population identifies under the lgbtq community where 1.1% identifies as lesbian female, 3.5% as bisexual female, 1.7% as gay male, 1.1% as bisexual male, .3% as trans, and .3% as something else, then there’s finding someone who I’m compatible with emotionally, physically, and romantically from less than 8% of the population, and may or may not live near me
I have seen so many A:LoK spoilers
straight people’s objections to me being bisexual have nothing to do with my attraction to men and everything to do with me being attracted to people who aren’t men. it’s not as if i started dating women exclusively, i’d be elevated to some magical privileged status that i didn’t have before
i get what you’re saying here, and no you wouldn’t be “elevated to some magical privileged status that i didn’t have before” if you only dated women (has this ever been claimed??), but have you considered that might be because of bi erasure and biphobia?
No matter how you ID, if you’re a woman dating a woman you’re labelled lesbian. The harassment you get because of that from strangers is based in lesbophobia. But simultaneously your sexuality is being erased, you’re being mislabelled, and if you correct these people you get a whole host of new reactions on top of the lesbophobia.
"even better, that’s hot!"
"can I watch?"
"don’t be greedy"
"bi now gay later"
"gay straight or lying"
"you’re just confused"
"she’ll leave you for a man!"
"attention seeker"and many more~
and absolutely none of these microaggressions are because of homophobia. bar the first two, which lesbians experience as well due to both of us being fetishised, sexualised, and objectified, they’re unique to bisexual people (especially bi women).
i don’t get how microaggressions and harassment only experienced by bi people is somehow homophobia.
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add me on snapchat if you want idk? username is emiello
Never forget that the phrase “Skinny Bitch” was popularized by a 2005 diet book, published by Rory Freedman (a former modelling agent) and Kim Barnouin (a former model).
Skinny Bitch was created by skinny bitches who referred to themselves as skinny bitches and wanted to encourage other women to become skinny bitches too. It glorifies weightloss and diet culture, and implies that being skinny is the only way to “look fabulous.” One of their slogans is “Stop Being A Moron and Start Getting Skinny!”
So if you don’t like that phrase and if you find it insulting? Blame the people who taught our culture that this was a compliment. Because seriously, fuck those skinny bitches.
If you use the word monosexual in a vent post you will get slammed for lumping gay people in with straight people and demonising them, if you use the word non-bisexual in a vent post you will get slammed for lumping gay people in with straight people and demonising them, I’m starting to think the problem is not saying “but not gay people” here.
"not ALL gay people"
ugh. It’s becoming more and more obvious this isn’t about homophobia at all. It’s about people refusing to give a shit about biphobia.
bisexual survival tips: don’t trust any non-bisexual people. ever. just trust me on this one.
yeah don’t ever trust those dastardly evil gays amirite
See this is the guilt tripping victim blaming shit we keep talking about, yeah specifying non-bisexuals totally just means “dastardly evil gay people”, that’s exactly what this post was saying, what are straight people and other multisexuals amirite? What’s biphobia?
omfg this isn’t just about gay people. It’s not just about you. It’s about anyone who isn’t bisexual, and promoting bi solidarity. Because believe it or not both hetero society and the MOGAI community are unsafe spaces for us and we need to be prepared for and aware of that.
Get your fucking biphobic victim complexes the fuck away from our community.